उद्धरेदात्मनात्मानं नात्मानमवसादयेत् |
आत्मैव ह्यात्मनो बन्धुरात्मैव रिपुरात्मन: ||
Elevate yourself through the power of your mind, and not degrade yourself, for the mind can be the friend and also the enemy of the self.
Bhagvad Gita Chapter 6 Verse 5
Our mind can make us independent believing on our self, and at the same time it can also make us too much dependant on external factors that may include a person, an object or even a situation. It is our mind that support us to make us believe in our infinite potential, and it is our mind only that make us fear of the varying situations in the outside world with a lot of uncertainty. It is upto us whether we want it to be our friend or an enemy in our lives.
The key to tame our mind and make it believe of its capabilities is to develop self reliance in real life situation and actually practice it. And practice it consciously. We know this life is always uncertain and dynamic in nature. My Guruji says – “the only thing that is certain in your life is uncertainty. So best thing is to be prepared always for the unknown”. Life can sometimes be really tough leaving you without any clue of the surroundings wondering on how to come out of that situation really. But whatever this life presents before you is immaterial as long as you believe in your self and are confident enough to cope up with the challenges.
“He is an atheist who does not believe in himself. The old religions said that he was an atheist who did not believe in GOD. The new religion says that he is the atheist who does not believe in himself.”
In the midst of the ocean of Life, the best help to let you swim is ‘self help’. Too much of dependance on others is a sign of weakness. One must know to stand on owns feet. The secret of success lies in the self reliance and self confidence. Our Gurus and friends and relative can help at once to develop and manifest strength and knowledge in us. But to to be able to use that knowledge and leverage the strength in right time is something that comes from self reliance and self confidence.
The best example in history we get of self reliance is of Eklavya in Mahabharata. He once approached the best Guru of that time Guru Dronacharya to learn Dhanurvidya (archery), but Guru Dronacharya refused to accept him as his student because of the strict conditions in his Gurukul where he was supposed to teach only students from the royal family. Had this been some other student, he would have surrendered before the conditions. But it was Eklavya, And he was determined to master archery. He did it without any external help, just by taking inspiration from the statue of Guru Dronacharya.
By self effort and faith in ones own power and longing for knowledge – with the help of self reliance , one can get what he wants in life. Nothing is impossible for such a person in this world. As he knows how to use and leverage the powerful Mind in his favour and use his skills in the best possible manner against all odds presented by this Life.